The ten most important hints for best sex

As you probably already noticed, this website is meant for all men who want to improve their sex life to get to the best sex possible. Your sex life might not (yet) be as you want it for various reasons. This may be because you don’t have enough experience, because of a sexual problem or simply because you like to learn new things. On this site any man can discover something new.

In this article I would like to teach you the basic principles of good sex. It is the foundation on which you can build your sexual experiences until you become a true sex god and you can offer the best sex to every woman.

Without learning the basics, it makes no sense to start off with advanced techniques or even psychological aspects. This is true for any new subject you want to study; it’s not different for sex.

Sex tip # 1: Respect each other

It may seem obvious, but remember that sex is a game for two. Taking your partner into account and respecting her is of crucial importance. There is no intense pleasure without mutual respect. Today men are all too often confronted with unrealistic images of sex through porn for example. This is ok for fantasising, but don’t forget that it is not a reflection of reality. Remember your partner is a human being of flesh and blood with feelings and her own expectations.

Sextip #2: Give and take

Good sex may be different to your partner than it is to you. There’s nothing wrong with that, it may keep things exciting. Always try and be open to new ideas. You can enrich your own sexual experience by trying out new things, even if they don’t fit in your own ideal image. This can change with time.

Never feel forced to do things you don’t want to do. But do realise that good sex is about give and take. If she asks you something you don’t feel comfortable with, remember the opposite may be true too, she may feel uncomfortable with the things you ask of her.  It’s OK to draw the line as well, as long as you stay realistic and you and your partner agree.

You might want to surprise her with a vibrator. Research has shown that most women actually prefer having vibrators during sex.

Sex tip #3: Hygiene

You may think this is exaggerated, but believe me, we often forget to pay enough attention to this subject and it is impossible to have the best sex without it!

Hygiene is a must for the best sex

To excuse oneself at the start of a sex session to go and refresh oneself is perfectly NORMAL. Not to do it is LESS NORMAL than doing it!

Get used to this idea, because you can be sure you won’t score very high if she discovers that you are not clean. This is especially important for oral sex.

Oral sex is a comprehensive discussion point for many couples. Not everyone is comfortable with it and that is normal. Of course it is worth your while and you can both get a great amount of pleasure from it, but don’t set the bar too high! The wrong smell or a certain visible mark on your genitals can put an immediate end to this sexual adventure. This is as much true for the ladies as it is for the gentlemen!

Sex tip #4

Variety is the spice of life. Sex becomes more fun if you remove monotony from it. A quickie can be very satisfying for us men, and there is nothing wrong with that. But do sometimes take some time for a longer, more extensive sex game. Take time; try out different positions and different forms of pleasuring one another. Alternate between penetration and oral sex and discover all the erogenous zones of your partner.

Just keeping a list of these erogenous zones in mind and giving them your attention alternately will give you wonderful sex. Alternation and variation stop you from getting bored and make sure sex is full of small surprises. Imagine what it does to you if your partner applies many different techniques and ideas on you. That will intensely enrich the experience and the sensation!

Sex tip #5: Foreplay

I already talked about this in the article about reasons for long foreplay during sex. Foreplay is especially important for women. It takes longer for women than men to get into a state of optimum excitement. Men only need a small stimulus, but it takes a lot more for women and foreplay can give them the time they need to get aroused enough.

Foreplay. Extremely important!

It is also an important part of sex for men. Just the fact of knowing during foreplay that sex is coming but is not yet within reach makes us long for it even more. This longing builds up the tension and the longer that lasts the more enjoyable sex becomes once it happens.

Foreplay is also physically important for women. As you know, it’s important to have a moist vagina before starting intercourse. This happens when she gets aroused. If she doesn’t get enough time, sex may become unpleasant for her.

Sex tip #6: take your time

There is no hurried good sex.

Sex can start fast because of a moment of passion, but if you have the time, then use it.

Sex is a lot more enjoyable for yourself and your partner if you both have the time to notice small details and if you build up the tension and the intensity bit by bit.

If you have a new partner, it is easy to make the mistake of going too fast and to create the wrong impression. Taking your time for your partner, gives out a signal that you respect her, just as does making every effort to give her as much pleasure as possible.

Sex tip #7: Communication

There is always some communication between two people, but here I am talking about ‘conscious’ communication. This means you should leave as little as possible to coincidence. Your partner may guess what you like, but what of she guesses wrong? It could lead to both of you losing time and maybe libido by searching and guessing what the other one likes.

Therefore my advice: Be precise!

Tell her exactly what you like the most and let her know if there is something you don’t enjoy as much.

Talking makes all the difference.

Ask for the same clarity from her. Ask her if your techniques are good for her. Ask for her input! Be restrained but don’t leave any space for doubt. The more you communicate during sex, the closer you will be to the ideal image of ‘best sex’.

Sex tip #8: Don’t be too serious

The first time we have sex with someone we think of so many things at once. We have to keep account of so many small details. Does she enjoy this, is she at ease? Is it going ok? Am I not hurting her? What else can I do? Can I keep this up?

So many thoughts go through our mind that we tend to forget that sex is SUPER FUN, one of the nicest things in the world, and there is no reason to be so serious.

As soon as you learn to relax during sex and you let go completely, you will discover a new level of sexual pleasure. A little joke here and there, a bit of messing around, a little squeeze or anything else that can break the tension will do wonders.

Men often see sex as something difficult that needs hard work and concentration. Nothing is further from the truth. Sex is a time of pleasure and relaxation. Keep that in mind and you’ll soon see that this is one of the first steps to the best sex.

Tip: want to spice things up? Try outside sex, it’s fun! 😉

Sex tip #9: surprise each other

Sex is great if you’re well prepared, but the surprising moments that overwhelm yourself or your partner can make sex unforgettable.

You sometimes hear couples talk about the weirdest places where they did ’it’. They do it because it’s exciting; this excitement makes sex more interesting. The surprising factor is what makes an ordinary sex session an unforgettable experience which she will always remember as the best that ever happened to her.

Sex tip 10: Act!

This is the last and maybe the most important tip. I already talked about how communication is crucial! Well, acting is what you do with the information you gave each other.

Transform and become the man of her wildest dreams during sex. Whether he’s knight in shining armour saving her, or a rough cave man who knows no limit, put yourself completely into that part. If it’s your aim to give her the best sex she can wish for, then this is the golden key. Make acting during sex a second adventure. Of course you don’t really need to change, it’s something you should be willing to do for her and for her pleasure. She’ll do the same for you, and be honest; wouldn’t you love it if she became the woman of your wildest dreams?

Make her dreams come true

Get to the best sex ever

We have described these 10 tips as a first step. The first step to a new top sex life! If this didn’t contain much new information for you, then that is a good sign! That means that you already know the basics of the best sex.

If some of the tips were new to you, then you should take them seriously, practice them with your partner(s) and make them feel like they’re your second nature.

In my opinion sex should ALWAYS contain as many as possible aspects of this list. You may have noticed it, but in the above list I haven’t once mentioned that you should train your body super fit.  I don’t mention that you need to carry on for minimum one hour without cumming, I don’t mention you should be a two meter tall Adonis.

Good sex depends on small subtle ways of handling it. We will examine them in more depth in other articles. Take your time, study them well We can all have sex, but as with other things, practice makes perfect, so study and practice to become very good!

Wishing you much pleasure!