How to Stop Premature Ejaculation Development

Premature ejaculation development has been a lingering problem for men all over the world.

People have been citing many reasons for this, including genetics, anxiety, depression, or worse, the lack of feeling sexually confident.

However, I, for one, am a believer of the fact that premature ejaculation can happen just as a result of bad habits, like masturbating in the wrong way…

In this article, you’ll learn all about premature ejaculation, what it is, why it happens, and how to fix it once and for all.

What is Premature Ejaculation

First, what is premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is an uncontrolled ejaculation that usually happens either before sexual penetration or immediately after it.

With minimal sexual stimulation, semen releases quickly without guys wanting to actually finish. The most common result of premature ejaculation is unsatisfactory sex and other psychological effects on both partners.

Premature Ejaculation Development Caused by Masturbation

First of all, let me assure you that masturbation is normal: There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, except for the fact that it could be harmful on your mind when done in a wrong way.

As the popular cliché goes “anything in excess is bad”.

In premature ejaculation, however, masturbating too much is not a reason for its development. Rather, it’s more about the process and length of time you masturbate.

Basically, it’s not about how often you do it, but how long it takes you to finish it!

Rushing masturbation could first be experienced at home when you were a kid: You lock your door, do it as fast as you can, and then unlock the door and hope that your mom didn’t think you did something she wouldn’t like.

Practice like this trains you to have a mentality that ejaculation is a race, and eventually, that sex is a race.

However, doing it in bed with a woman will show you that the quick masturbation you grew up doing can hurt you.

Learning how to overcome premature ejaculation can start with controlling your masturbation habits.

Without enough knowledge on women and how they experience sex, it’s possible for a man to finish off rapidly the first time he does it in bed with a partner.

With that being said, the perception that “a quick orgasm is the best thing” which you could have given to your mind and body as you grew up is definitely not always right. In the bedroom, the slower you are to reach your peak, the more satisfied your woman will be (in general).

And if you learn how to control your urges and finish at just about the same time as your partner, that can really help make you an amazing lover.

During Masturbation, Take Your Time – Sex Is Not All about Orgasm  

Passion, bonding, intimacy, making love…there is more to sex than orgasm (contrary to what most “pick-up” forums might tell you).

Although having an orgasm during sex is probably one of the best feelings ever, it’s been proven time and time again that sex isn’t just about finishing.

So, when you masturbate, don’t be in a hurry, take your time!

Bonus: Do you know how long she wants you to last?

They say practice makes perfect. If you practice it the wrong way, then you’ll definitely do it wrong during the actual moment. By getting your body used to lasting longer when you masturbate, you’ll find that longevity can translate into the bedroom with your partner.

Goal-oriented orgasm is the wrong mentality during masturbation: What matters most is that you take your time, and get comfortable with the heightened sensations.

Without a doubt, masturbation is the best practice for sex.

So, take at least 20 minutes of masturbation time before you let yourself go. Through this, you’ll be able to simulate what will actually occur in bed.

The Right Way of Masturbating

As I mentioned, the secret to proper masturbation is taking your time. Instead of trying to finish fast, try the start-stop method and focus on stimulating the glans (head of the penis).

Instead of the usual up-down motion you do during masturbation, realize that the head is actually the most sensitive part of the penis, and that it’s the part continuously stimulated inside the vagina. Through this, your mind and body are able to learn a more natural way of developing the moment of your orgasm, just like how you should do it in bed with your partner.

Knowing the right way of masturbating can help you avoid premature ejaculation development.

Pornography and Its Effects on Premature Ejaculation

As technology has developed, many aspects of life have come along with it…

Porn is no exception.

Before, guys were OK with magazines, short clips from the dial-up internet connection, and underground porn rentals from a nearby video shop.

Now, porn is just one click away, and you can basically get anything you want. It’s no wonder why porn is regarded by many as one of the more popular forms of adult entertainment.

But with the fame of porn, it’s also been a target of criticism, the biggest being its contribution to the development of premature ejaculation among men, and it’s led to movements like NoFap on Reddit.

Masturbation and porn almost go hand-in-hand in terms of premature ejaculation, and this makes it difficult to find the real culprit.

Unfortunately for most guys, jacking off is simply a product of pornography: When a guy feels the urge to masturbate, he’ll watch porn. When he watches porn, he’ll masturbate, and the cycle continues. It’s not hard to see how this is one of the causes of premature ejaculation.

Pornography and Dopamine

Dopamine is a chemical in the brain affecting emotions, movements, and the sensations of pleasure and pain. It also affects how a person learns and behaves; in particular, it plays a large role in mood, sleep, learning, memory, ability to focus, and motor control.

Dopamine is the chemical responsible for addiction. For example, you get to eat something you enjoy or one of your favourite foods are served on the table. With this, you’ll pleasure yourself and have it repeatedly.

With this simple example, your dopamine level already increases…But, porn has been shown also increase dopamine levels, and can really mess up your natural cycles.

Porn causes a dopamine spike, which lasts much longer than healthy, normal sex. Because of this, you could crave for porn rather than sex itself. What’s worse is that when you get addicted to porn, your brain will be used to a high dopamine level which will be hard to replicate during actual sex.

Dealing with Pornography

What should you do with porn and how can you avoid premature ejaculation development from it?

The first thing to do of course to avoid relating porn to premature ejaculation is to stop using it. But if you have the perception that porn is normal just like masturbation is, then what you really have to do is change the way you masturbate.

As I said, the best thing to do is to prolong your masturbation and simulate it as if you’re doing it in the bedroom with a partner.

So does porn really cause premature ejaculation? The answer is no…at least not directly. However, porn affects masturbation and that’s where the problem lies.

Also, on the perspective of orgasm, porn can also give negative effects especially if we rely on it too much.

Reliance or full dependence on porn can affect a guy’s ability to perform well sexually and in controlling his own orgasms, resulting in sexual intimacy issues, approach anxiety, and more.

TL;DR – I know porn is fun, but stop it. It’s messing you up. Go find some real women.

Serotonin and Premature Ejaculation

Having the proper amount of hormones is very important to be a healthy, happy, man. Among the most important of all these hormones is serotonin. This essential chemical is known to help with many important body functions, one of which is ejaculation control.

Serotonin and How It Works

First, what is serotonin?

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter. It’s a chemical that helps relay signals from one area of the brain to another. Although it’s manufactured in the brain, about 90% of serotonin supply can be found in your blood platelets and the digestive tract.

There are approximately 40 billion brain cells discovered through extensive studies, wherein the majority of these brain cells are directly or indirectly affected by serotonin including mood, appetite, memory, and sexual desire.

Through a distinctive biochemical conversion process, serotonin is created and produced: The process begins with tryptophan which is a building block to proteins. Your cells utilize a chemical reactor called tryptophan hydroxylase.

When this is combined with tryptophan, 5-hydroxytryptamine or serotonin will be created.

The Effects of Serotonin Levels on Premature Ejaculation

As I mentioned, serotonin is a neurotransmitter. As a neurotransmitter, it’s used by the nervous system to send and relay messages from the brain: Everything from keeping the heart beating to controlling muscles is controlled by the nervous system.

Hence, to have it function properly, it needs enough fuel to run.

An efficient and healthy nervous system is very important in ejaculation control. As a matter of fact, a lot of premature problems are linked to problems with the nervous system and insufficient serotonin levels, such as:

Sleeping

Sleep allows the body to rest and recover from sexual activity. Deep sleep is also required to create the hormones that are used for sex and those that will hold back ejaculation.

The cycle is repetitive in terms of the connection with serotonin levels, lack of sleep, and premature ejaculation: When your serotonin level is insufficient, your body will not be able to process melatonin which is needed for sleep. And when you don’t have enough sleep or have not gone into a deep state of sleep, premature ejaculation can happen.

Restoration of the balance of serotonin in the body is definitely required.

Pain and Pleasure

Besides playing a big part in sending signals to different parts of the body, serotonin is also used in receiving sensory messages such as pain and pleasure. Having a better sense of knowing what feels good, particularly the point of no return, is crucial in controlling ejaculation.

With a low amount of serotonin, reactions are slowed and can add to your ejaculatory control problems.

Mood and Emotion

Having low amounts of serotonin in the body can cause aggression, anxiety, irritability, and impatience. To be happy, serotonin levels should be restored to normal or even above average.

As a matter of fact, antidepressants are designed in a way that your serotonin level will be normalized or even increased every day.

Obviously, for proper sex and ejaculation control, you need to be happy. Isn’t it true that the essence of sex is to have fun and feel good? If your body doesn’t have the serotonin that it needs, then it won’t be able to keep you happy or more so help you in keeping control over your sex and ejaculation.

Causes of Low Serotonin Levels

Age

The dropping of serotonin levels can be caused by many things, age being one of them. Studies have shown that it’s not only women who go through menopause, there’s also male menopause, where premature ejaculation has been shown to be a major problem. As we get older, our body slows down and produces fewer hormones, including serotonin.

Sexual Exhaustion

Others also say that masturbation and sex deplete many hormones in our body. But actually, it’s sexual exhaustion that causes this. In sexual exhaustion, the body can no longer function properly causing premature ejaculation among men.

Vices

Illegal drugs, drinking, and smoking all have their fair share of altering your body’s chemistry. Even just small amounts of these substances can already cause serotonin levels to drop. It’s best to avoid these vices to have a better sex life and avoid premature ejaculation development.

Diet

The food we eat also has a big role in upsetting the production of serotonin. Some diets, which we think are helping our body, could be the cause of serotonin depletion. Red meat, for example, has different kinds of amino acids that lower serotonin.

Coffee and other beverages with caffeine content also alter the body clock, causing lack of sleep and eventually the lack of serotonin.

Medications and Treatments to Premature Ejaculation

As I said, low serotonin levels can cause premature ejaculation. Now that we’ve talked about how serotonin can affect your sex life, you should now know about the medications and treatments that can help restore your normal state and cure premature ejaculation.

Methodical Approach

There are two common behavioral training methods that can be used in treating premature ejaculation- the squeeze method and the stop-start method.

The squeeze method work as follows:

1. Begin sexual activity until you feel that you’re about to reach the point of no return.
2. Let your partner (or when you’re masturbating, you’ll do it) squeeze the end of your penis, where the head joins the shaft. Maintain the squeezing for several seconds until the urge passes.
3. Do steps 1 and 2 repeatedly when necessary.

The stop-start method on the other hand simply requires you to stop engaging in sexual motions once you’re about to cum. This is commonly used but let’s be honest, it can be pretty difficult to hold back sometimes.

Drug Therapy or Oral Medication

Many medications can increase serotonin levels and delay orgasm. However, none of these drugs are usually approved by your local Food and Drug Administration in treating premature ejaculation. Be sure to consult first your doctor before trying these medications.

Antidepressants

Antidepressants can have nasty side effects, but one that might be useful for you is delayed orgasm. Because of this, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) such as escitalopram, sertraline, fluoxetine, or paroxetine can be used to help delay ejaculation. Paroxetine is the most popular and most effective among these antidepressants.

Take these medications for about two to three weeks. In the first ten days, you’ll already start to see the changes. However, you’ll only see the full effects as early as the second week.

Antidepressants have been prescribed by many doctors all over the world as a solution to premature ejaculation development, but be sure to talk about the other side effects and be prepared to accept them.

Analgesics

Analgesics are commonly used to treat pain. However, they also have the side effect of delaying ejaculation. Some doctors prescribe analgesics such as tramadol to go with SSRIs especially if the latter doesn’t work on patients. However, they can cause headaches, drowsiness, and nausea, so be cautious if you go for them.

To wrap it up, premature ejaculation is a common problem amongst us guys. Around 35 million men have been plagued by this problem and it still continues to affect the lives of men all over the world.

Premature ejaculation development and its treatment have been well-documented already: It’s now up to you if you’ll cure it through what we talked about in this article.

Follow the advice in this guide and see how your sex life can change.

Also check out this guide on premature ejaculation for more tips and techniques.