- in Kama Sutra by Mark Meyers
3 Fun and Sexy Kama Sutra Techniques
How an ancient book can guide your modern lovemaking, renew your spiritual sexuality, and help you feel more connected to your partner! Experience these wild sexy kama sutra techniques tonight!
Although popular magazines may tell you otherwise, the philosophy of Kamasutra is not just a “how-to” guide for an exotic sexual ritual. Instead, it’s a beautifully complex ideology and way of living that derives its tenants from an ancient Indian Hindu text, outlining how to live purely, divinely, and take part in sex that reflects those ideals. In fact, Kamasutra only refers to sexual positions in about 20% of its writing. To fully understand the philosophy of Kamasutra, it’s necessary to actually read the text “Kama Sutra”, and guide yourself through its directions on gracious and virtuous living.
…But, not all of us are necessarily looking for a new life philosophy!So even if you haven’t studied Kamasutra in earnest, or are just planning to in the future, you can still practice some of the fun, sexy techniques from the Kama Sutra in the meantime. These range from spiritual to super-physical, so whether you’re just looking to build intimacy or try a fun new position, this list will cover some of the best techniques presented in the Kama Sutra.
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Nail “Pressing”
One of the sexiest tips from the Kama Sutra is the art of “nail pressing”. According to Vatsyayana, nail pressing can be done in a variety of ways: the “sounding”, which is the simple nail mark, “half-moon”, which is a curved nail mark, “circle”, “line”, “tiger’s paw”, which consists of all five fingers’ indentations in the shape of a circle, “the jump of the hare”, which is similar to the tiger’s paw but specifically near the nipple, and “the leaf of the blue lotus”, which consists of indentations in a lotus pattern on the breast or hips.
Nail pressing is sexy for a few reasons: Vatsyayana mentions that visible marks on women’s shoulders, breasts, and arms are visual symbols of her lover that can help keep her happy while he’s away on business. He also mentions that the actual small pain of pressing can make the pleasure of sex that much more potent,a fact supported by the whole world of BDSM . And thirdly, he remarks that in the case of courtesans (“secondary wives” that were technically “single”, but provided the man of the house with sexual relief and were free to have sex with other men as well), nail pressing marks would show potential suitors that the courtesan was skilled in the bedroom. Of all these reasons, perhaps the idea that nail marks remind us of past sexual encounters and provokes love in us is the most emotionally moving:
“The love of a woman who sees the marks of nails on the private parts of her body, even though they are old and almost worn out, becomes again fresh and new. If there be no marks of the nails to remind a person of the passages of love, then love is lessened in the same way as when no union takes place for a long time” –The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana, Part II, Chapter IV
From an anthropological perspective, the Kama Sutra rose in popularity at a time where men in upper classes were typically travelling around the Middle East, especially if they were involved in the booming spice trade of India and Pakistan that required long treks to Western Europe. It’s fascinating and understandable that this idea of “marking” comes into play in such a neo-nomadic period.
For a modern approach to this Kama Sutra tenant, first, it’s very important to ask your partner for permission, even more so than some other techniques. The reason is pretty obvious: if your partner doesn’t want physical marks, either because of an aversion to pain or because they have work the next morning, you want to know this before you do it. So approach the topic with your partner sometime–a great time is maybe as you’re falling asleep together, cuddling together, or otherwise close and in harmony with each other. Ask them what they think about the practice, and if you get a green light, then have fun!
Try making some of the more ornamental shapes like the tiger’s paw mentioned previously (and if you’re wondering what the heck a blue lotus looks like, here’s a great example). They look beautiful, and serve the dual purpose of adding pain to stimulate pleasure as well as giving your partner a little symbol of your love while you’re away.
Embracing is sexy!
“The whole subject of embracing is of such a nature that men who ask questions about it, hear about it, or who talk about it acquire thereby a desire for enjoyment. Even those embraces that are not mentioned in the Kama Shastra should be practiced at the time of sexual enjoyment, if they are in any way conducive to the increase of love or passion. The rules of the Shastra apply so long as the passion of man is middling, but when the wheel of love is once set in motion, then there is no Shastra and no order” –Kama Sutra, Vatsyayana, Part II, Chapter V
Embracing seems like such an obvious part of not only our sexual lives, but our 
regular lives, that it almost seems silly to bring up. But humans are such physical creatures that our entire lives are essentially informed by touch: we learn at infancy what shapes are through grabbing things, we show affection as children by roughhousing and play-fighting, and our first romantic exchanges are through touching hands and mouths. We are constantly moving between bodies, catering our touch to meet the other persons and our own pleasures.
The Kama Sutra definitely understands the importance of touch: embracing takes up an entire chapter of the book. While much of the chapter focuses on the “accidental” embraces that can occur on the street (for instance, when a man rubs his shoulder against a woman in a marketplace), it’s unnecessary to mention them here. Those types of “embraces” don’t have quite enough consent involved to truly be palatable.
What’s important to focus on in this chapter is the ways that you can touch your partner to elicit certain responses. For example:
- Jataveshtitaka, or “the twining of a creeping vine”
- Vrikshadhirudhaka, or “the climbing of a tree”
- Tila-Tandulaka, or “the mixture of sesame seeds with rice” (a personal favorite, just for name alone)
- Kshiraniraka, or “milk and water embrace”
“The twining of a tree” includes a woman and a man standing upright, with the woman’s dominant hand on the small of the man’s back, and her non-dominant hand on his shoulder. Her legs are wrapped around him, and he bends his neck down as if to kiss her. To try this with your partner, simply start with this exact pose, then listen to your partner breathe. As you listen to their breath, you’ll relax, and your body will naturally fall into your own unique version of this jataveshtitaka.
To be totally honest, “the climbing of a tree” pose is pretty similar to the Western version “drunk make out session”. It might feel a little odd at first, but it’s worth a try: with you and your partner standing, the woman “places her one foot on the foot of her lover and the other on one of his thighs, rounded him with one hand in his back, and the other on his shoulder, making the sound of singing and murmuring”, giving the impression that she wants to “climb up him” for a kiss. This pose can be hilarious, awkward, but just might turn both you and your partner on. After all, what’s hotter than someone wanting you?
“The sesame seed with rice” is admittedly the most adorable one, and maybe one you’ve found yourself in accidentally: to do this pose, lay flat on top of your partner, and wrap both your arms and legs around theirs. That’s it! That’s all. Now just breathe, probably let out a giggle or two, and feel your bodies connect.
Kshiraniraka, the “milk and water embrace”, needs hardly any explanation. Personally, I find it the most beautiful of the embraces:
“When man and woman embrace each other vigorously without thinking of pain and hurt imagining that they are entering into each other’s bodies is called an embrace like ‘mixture of milk and water”. –Kama Sutra, Vatsyayana, Part II, Chapter V
The best, most sexy Kama Sutra positions
Ladies and gentlemen, the moment you’ve all been waiting for: sex positions. They’re what most people think of when they hear the words “Kama Sutra”, and not for bad reason–there’s tons of great sex positions in the book. Here, we’ll run down a few of the most popular, easiest, and most fun.
“The Erotic V”
This position requires a bit of acrobatic skill on the part of the receiving partner. For this position, the woman sits on the edge of a bed or table, spreading her legs into a “V” position. The man stands directly in front of her, adjusting his height to make sure his penis lines up for entry. To make this position a little easier, the woman can also balance her legs atop the man’s shoulders.
“The Catherine Wheel”
This one’s a little more advanced, but definitely rewarding. To get into this position, sit down opposite your partner with your legs facing each other. The woman wraps her legs around the man’s torso, guiding him inside her, while he crosses his leg over her stomach to gain leverage. This pose can vary greatly based on height, so feel free to move around until you find the most comfortable position.
“The Slide”
This position can get kind of giggly, but it’s definitely fun. The woman lays on top of the man, resting her full body weight on him, and gently slides up and down with him inside her. While this can seem kind of funny (almost like she just got too tired to keep herself up), the stimulation of full-body contact during sex feels amazing. Plus, with her legs closer together, her vaginal wall naturally contracts, providing both partners a tighter feeling.
“The Rocking Horse”
One of the most commonly depicted positions in Sanskrit art, “the rocking horse” is relatively simple: The man sits cross-legged on the floor, and the woman sits on top, lowering herself down with her thighs on either side of the man. She controls the rhythm for the most part, and the man is kind of swayed into a gentle “rocking” from this position. Bonus: the woman’s breasts are at a great angle for ogling, biting, or sucking.
“The Glowing Triangle”
Although this position may look similar to the missionary position, there’s a key difference. To get into this pose, assume normal missionary position, but have the man drop down to all fours, resting his weight on his knees and elbows. The woman then strokes upwards with her pelvis, so unlike normal missionary, she controls the rhythm. It’s a fun, sexy twist on a typical position, and a great beginner’s pose!
“The Nirvana”
One of the most popular Kama Sutra poses, “The Nirvana” is truly heavenly. For this pose, the woman lies flat on her back, her knees flat, and her arms holding the headboard above her. The man enters with his thighs on the outside of her body. This pose is awesome for a few reasons: the woman’s breasts are in full view, and penetration feels amazing with your legs lowered. Plus, it provides natural stimulation for the clitoris–so if that’s your girl’s go-to method of orgasm, save this one for last.
Kama Sutra Inspiration Video
If you’re looking for some more inspiration on the most sexy kama sutra techniques for in the bedroom. have a look at the video below which contains a full overview!
What are your favorite Sexy Kama Sutra Techniques?
It’s my hope that with this simple introduction into the ‘most fun’ Kama Sutra techniques, you and your partner might give this approach a go!
Perhaps there are some other techniques you think should be added to this list as some of the ‘best you know’. Or perhaps you’ve tried something that was particularly pleasurable.
In that case, please don’t forget to share with the rest of us!
I look forward to hear from you in the comment section below!
