How to Last up to 30 Minutes without Ejaculating: The Guide to Prolong Sex

Almost every guy wants to know how to prolong sex. It can range from just being a desire to last a bit longer and have more fun with your girl, to being a very serious issue in a relationship.

Tons of guys finish fast while women are left hanging because men, on average, can reach orgasm easier and faster. Some even undergo premature ejaculation, where they can’t control when they cum.

Not only is the girl frustrated because she doesn’t orgasm, but the guy feels bad too because he can only enjoy about 5 minutes of sex before he’s done.

In this article, you’ll learn how to prolong sex so you can enjoy things with your partner for much longer.

Premature Ejaculation: What Is It and Why It’s a Problem

The fact is that premature ejaculation is not something that men want or even expect. Though at times it can be caused by doing things during sex that instantly get them off, there are situations where this happens all the time, no matter what.

The problem is that the causes of premature ejaculation can be as simple as the guy being too excited and that he can’t control himself, to things that are more scientific. These scientific reasons could range from things like the side-effects after an illness, an accident, hormonal imbalance, to even the effects of certain medicines.

And even when a guy gets too tired, depressed, or anxious, this problem can also come up (no pun intended).

You can see see that there can be more to uncontrolled ejaculation than just your woman’s vagina feeling too good.

You might also want to read this article about premature ejaculation development.

What worries most guys even more and adds to the stigma is that bigger problems arise if they’re medically diagnosed with this dysfunction. Let’s walk through some of these issues to hopefully air them out in the open, and make you feel a bit more relaxed about the possibilities:

The Need to Spend on Meds

Depending on the need and urgency to get better, there are medications proven to treat premature ejaculation and are mainly in the form of antidepressants like Clomipramine (Anafranil) and Paroxetine (Paxil). Medicines for pain, such as Tramadol (Ultram), are believed to effectively help as well in delaying ejaculation, resulting in a guy being able to prolong sex.

At times as well, doctors may prescribe you creams and gels to be applied prior to sex that would allow you to limit the sensations you feel. You can get condoms that have this special type of lube on them as well.

But all these costs can add up, and it might worry some guys: “I have to pay THIS MUCH to have OK sex??”

Psychological Effects

More than the money, probably the worst part of being diagnosed is the psychological effects.

We, as men, always have this part of ourselves which aims to prove that we are good in bed. We want to be told that we’re good lovers.

Well, if you can’t even last more than 5 minutes in bed, prolong sex, and get your girl off how can you possibly say this?

It can definitely be a blow to the ego.

After being diagnosed as having problems with premature ejaculation, there are men who might get even more depressed, making it increasingly difficult for them to be treated. There are also guys that are embarrassed, lose so much confidence, and worry even more about the possibility of losing their partner, to the point of not wanting to have sex altogether.

Men during Sex: The Need to Last Longer

Make no mistake: Lasting longer during sex isn’t just an ego thing. I’ve personally seen a relationship end just because the woman was always left hanging, and what’s worse, the man didn’t do anything about it.

Sex is a HUGE part of any relationship, and trust me when I say that neglecting the need of your woman to orgasm, or at least enjoy a good amount of time during sex, can result in cheating and broken relationships.

To give you a more specific example – I have a friend who went through this. Because of not being sexually satisfied for quite some time now, she decided to go get what she needed from someone else. It was an older man who she considered to be more experienced and capable with sex.

What would you do if you found out that your partner was doing the same behind your back?

BONUS: Do you know how long you should last in order to satisfy your woman?

Understanding Ejaculation and Learning to Control

When men finally feel the urge of releasing sperm, and they are probably considering it as reaching their climax, we label that stage as the ejaculation reflex.

It’s all about nerve reflex: Your brain feels the need to deliver the sperm, sends the message to the nerve of the penis, contraction of the passageway of sperm starts to happen (originating from the testicles to the urethra), and finally, the sperm is released which is accompanied by the amazing feelings which we term as orgasm.

Now I don’t want to be too scientific about it – I just really want to make you understand the basic flow.

Though we know how orgasm brings the best feelings, men often neglect the fact that when they reach their climax, it is often the case that their partner is not even halfway there. So this is where the need to control ejaculation enters the picture.

As Ian Kerner says, “She comes first, he comes second.”

How exactly can you do it? Here are some of the proven ways to help you prolong sex:

Breathing Exercise

You can never go wrong with a deep breathing exercise. If you happen to have some free time to spare, then yoga could be the answer.

If not, practicing deep breathing at least three times a day would help treat that frustrating premature ejaculation. It’s a form of meditation and mindfulness.

It’s pretty simple: Inhale through the nose, hold it for about five seconds, exhale through the mouth.

Do this regularly, even before and during sex.

This would allow you to let go of all worries, stress, and other similar causes that result in premature ejaculation. Getting stuck in your head worrying about cumming quickly during sex will just make it more likely to happen.

Being more in the moment fixes that.

Do It Often

As we’re always reminded – “practice makes perfect”. So if you’re having problems during sex, then you simply have to get used to it by doing it more often with your partner.

In this way, you’ll be more familiar with your partner in a sense that you would better gauge when and how she gets most excited and when she is about to orgasm.

In the same way, you’re able to practice controlling ejaculation, and by having sex more often, you’ll get familiar with the involved feelings, schedule, and soon be able to control it perfectly.

To put it simply: The less you have sex, the higher the urge will be to ejaculate, and the harder it’ll be for you to control.

Masturbate Prior to Sex

Don’t worry about feeling childish masturbating right before sex. Again, the longer it’s been since your last “release”, the more excited you’ll be to cum as soon as you can.

This is a well used technique and a proven solution to premature ejacuation.

Though I have to warn you: The older you get, the longer your refractory period (time before you can get hard and cum again) is. So if you happen to decide to try this technique out, then make sure to give yourself enough time before having sex as you don’t want it to cut into your fun time.

You Have to Wear a Condom

You have to keep in mind that you are very sensitive to how your woman’s vagina feels, and this could as well explain why you’re dealing with premature ejaculation.

Knowing this, wearing a condom to dull the sensations can be a good solution. Like I mentioned before, some condoms even come with special lube to dull the sensations you feel.

It really doesn’t make the sex less exciting, but rather, it just makes it last longer, allowing your partner to be satisfied and achieve orgasm too. For other cures for premature ejaculation check out my recent article about the topic.

Doing Kegel Exercises

What we have discussed so far are quick remedies but there are other things you can do. You can go deeper and consider remedies with proven, strict procedures.

The first of these are kegel exercises.

Proven to improve your penis’ health, it all starts with relaxing and allowing your blood to flow through the penis. As you start, make sure to leave any anxiety or worries behind.

You’ll then have to locate the right muscles. With this, I’m referring to the penile muscles which should be located near the front of the penis. These are the same muscles you contract when you try to stop peeing midstream.

Primarily, the goal is to strengthen your penis through these muscles by means of contracting them.

Again, deep breathing comes useful here. As you contract, aiming to push the muscles into the penile area, relax by breathing deeply and focusing on the muscles. Slowly exhale and release the contraction, and relax your penis. Inhale and again push the muscles, and the cycle goes on (go between feeling like you’re holding in your pee, to relaxing).

Start simple – initially doing the cycle for about a minute a day will already be a big help. You can increase the time as you get more comfortable doing it, and get used to the need of relaxing both your mind and muscles at the same time.

Also check out the article about 10 known home remedies and excercises that you can do in order to prolong sex.

The Need for Edging

Edging, also known as the ‘stop and start method’, is also an effective means of putting an end to uncontrolled ejaculation.

The name explains itself really – it’s a matter of reaching your peak or the orgasm stage, but instead of releasing, you’ll hold it all in and stop yourself before you even cum.

This remedy lasts for about 15-20 minutes per session. What it mainly aims is to limit the times that you’re ejaculating, and more importantly, have control and be able to hold it in especially when you haven’t started yet or your partner is not even at her peak.

You can combine this with having sex with your partner, and when you feel you’re coming close to finishing, stopping, and switching to giving her oral sex for a while instead.

All about the Danger-Triangle

You’ve now got a lot of remedies to experiment with. It doesn’t hurt to try each and see which you find most effective.

But in my opinion, there’s no other quicker, more reliable way to prolong sex then by doing the deep breathing exercise regularly.

Do you want to make it more effective? You can never go wrong with the Danger-Triangle method. It may sound complicated but really, it’s simple:

Picture a triangle. Focus on one side and breathe in for 3 seconds. As you end that side, proceed to the next and breathe out for 6 seconds until you close the triangle. Do it repeatedly.

Just like any other breathing exercise, you can try this method out anywhere you are. Keep this in mind as it can really help you last longer!

Prolong Sex: The Positive Effects of Lasting Longer

When you’re finally able to treat premature ejaculation, and nonetheless, you’re able to control ejaculating, then you’d give an end to those short nights. There are now a lot of positive effects to look forward to:

You’ll Feel Good about Yourself

You may have the aim of treating yourself for your partner but you can never neglect the fact that back when you were diagnosed and not capable of lasting longer, you might have felt pretty low.

When the time comes that you’re confident that you can prolong sex, then the best outcome will be feeling a lot better and more confident in yourself. Everything else will follow.

You Get to Keep Your Relationship

Certainly, with being able to control and last longer, you’re definitely making your partner appreciate you more. Worries of getting left behind are now out of the picture.

You’re a good partner. You have great sex. Your partner will love you for it.

Understanding Women during Sex

It all boils down to one thing – sex involves two people. Being the man that you are, you will always have to make sure that your lady gets satisfied. Never focus on just your desires alone.

Knowing the obvious fact that women take a lot more time before they reach orgasm, maybe double the time that you take to reach yours, you’ll need to adjust to save that relationship.

Find an effective means to prolong sex and make it work. Make every moment special and amazing for the both of you.

Again, she’ll love you for it…and pay you back in kind. 😉