March 21, 2016

Learn how to perform cunnilingus well

how to perform cunnilingus well

It can be difficult for many men to be creative in bed. It can often be a challenge to think of a sexual act which makes us feel like we let the woman enjoy sex as much as we do.

A man cums fast and easily when he doesn’t delay his orgasm. It’s not difficult for a woman willing to make some effort to help us enjoy sex intensely.

To us it’s important to give our partner this coveted orgasm so we don’t feel less capable. Orgasm means ultimate pleasance, or in any case a feeling of which we as men know for sure it feels good for our partner, even if it’s different to how we experience an orgasm.

So time after time we go back to oral sex, licking our partner, to make sure we score high.

But this poses another problem to men. When we try and come up with ways to perform cunnilingus well, we come up with techniques that would work well on us men. Hard and fast is what we want, but a lot of women don’t really enjoy this, and it doesn’t lead to orgasm for many a girl.

In this article I will teach you to perform cunnilingus right, with some simple “best practices”.

Oral sex for women

Oral sex works differently in women than it does for men.

The clitoris is a central part of this act, but you can’t compare it to the sensitive part of the penis, as many men tend to do. For men the surface of the glans is the most sensitive, but this needs to be stimulated fiercely and repeatedly to reach orgasm (maybe not so in every situation, but in general it is true for most men).

The clitoris is different. In many women it is so sensitive that direct contact with for example your fingers is unpleasant. This direct contact can be painful rather than pleasurable, especially when the vagina isn’t wet enough.

When we have oral sex with a woman, the contact is less direct because the tongue is moist itself. The tongue is softer and has a spongey structure if we don’t tense it.

This is the right formula for many women. So here’s the first tip:

Never tense up your tongue during cunnilingus!

Building up tension to reach an orgasm

perform cunnilingus well by building upRather than having difficulty reaching an orgasm, we have to delay our orgasm when we are pampered by our partner to stop premature ejaculation.

It’s a different story for women. The sexual tension that builds up in our head (mental sexual tension) as well as in our body and our limbs has to be optimum for women.

An orgasm will only come with a perfect routine which makes her sink deeper into her own sexual thoughts. This is what to keep in mind during a good pussy licking session.

The build-up is the key to success.

Start slowly and softly, immediately take a certain rhythm while softly licking the vagina. When you get positive reactions, you can apply the next tip. 

During cunnilingus you need to take two steps forward, one step back.

No need to take this literally of course! But as in other life situations, tension builds up faster when we think we’re getting something, just to see it disappear in front of us.

It’s the same with sex. It’s called teasing.  When you are satisfying her orally, slowly increase the pressure of your tongue. Then suddenly decrease the pressure and slow down as well. It may sound contradictory, because you want her to take steps forward towards her orgasm.

Believe me, that is exactly what you’ll achieve.

If you won’t take my word for this, then just watch her body’s reaction when you perform cunnilingus! You’ll see her moaning and squirming with pleasure.

Which are the most important places to concentrate on during cunnilingus?

Which spots are the most important if you want to be the most memorable licker of all her partners? We already talked about the clitoris. This is the central part. It is the body part that influences the orgasm most directly. The easiest to achieve orgasm in a woman is called a clitoral orgasm. But the clitoris is not the only part of her genitals that deserves your attention while performing oral sex.

The vulva, which is the front part of the vagina, has the most nerve endings. You need to stimulate the vulva with your tongue to give the maximum pleasure.

The best cunnilingus needs alternation. Start softly as described above and with a relaxed tongue on and around the clitoris, but then focus on the lower parts of the vulva. Tense your tongue slightly and lick her labia and use the tip of your tongue to slowly push deeper, This makes her mental tension more and more about the evolutionary part of sex, the penetration, and it stimulates her way to an orgasm.

How do you make a woman cum with cunnilingus?

Did you build up slowly? Did you take two steps ahead, one step how to perform cunnilingus well and make her cumbackward? Then you’ll see her reaction to your tongue’s touch grow more and more intense.

To push her over the edge and take her to orgasm with cunnilingus, suddenly increase the pressure of your tongue.  Then relax straight after, and increase again. Repeat this step regularly and intensely.

This is where you’ll notice if she’s close to orgasm. If you see her having less control over her own movements and when she starts moaning louder, the muscles around her vagina will start exercising some pressure. She may push her pelvis forward. This is the sign telling you not to stop now. However cramped your tongue becomes, carry on and keep it up. She will be grateful to you. During orgasm the clitoris becomes hyper sensitive, for many women even the touch of your tongue can be too much then.

Take this tip from me. Give her soft kisses on the clitoris with intervals to let her recover. You’ll notice why!

I get breathless and get cramped up when I perform cunnilingus and sometimes I think it’s dirty

All men who perform cunnilingus on a woman feel this way sometimes.

The vagina excretes a fluid, just like the penis. The vagina has a mucus membrane, and this produces a substance that keeps the vagina clean.

This I can assure you: If a woman maintains perfect personal hygiene, you have nothing to fear when you perform cunnilingus. Sometimes there is a certain taste, or a certain smell. Every person is different. If it troubles you, don’t be too straightforward about it. Nobody likes hearing that someone has a problem with her most intimate parts. But don’t be too childish either, keep in mind that what you to for her, she’ll probably reciprocate.

Getting cramps in your tongue because of intensive use is a different story. Although we do what we can, our tongue is a muscle after all, and just like any other muscle, it can become tired.

To prevent this, follow this one rule: Relax your tongue as much as possible when you perform cunnilingus.

If you have a flat, relaxed tongue during cunnilingus, the touch will be softer and therefore more pleasurable for your partner. A flat tongue also stimulates the nerve endings, which is an extra advantage. You won’t get tired and you won’t get cramps form licking and she will enjoy intense pleasure.

I hope this information will help you. If you have cool, creative ways to make oral sex more fun for you and your partner share them with us in the comments below. You will help someone else!

 

Mark Meyers

Mark is founder and sexcoach at Sexual Improvements. "Anyone can have an awesome sexlife with the right information!"

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