The mental process of premature ejaculation

In this article I‘d like to pay special attention to the psychological aspect of our orgasms and its relation to premature ejaculation. It is a well-known fact that we experience feelings connected with our genitals while having sex. But did you know that the man’s genitals only play a minor part the orgasm process? It’s just logical thinking: The genitals ‘feel’ some stimuli; they feel a touch or a certain sexual act, but so do our eyes, our ears and even our nose and skin.

 

Stimuli’s influence on premature ejaculation

The orgasm is, as you know, the way in which mother Nature makes sure of our species’ survival. The only real reason for sex is procreation, but humans have attached a lot more reasons to it throughout the centuries.

Pleasure, relaxation, discharge, love, affection. All these have been added by humans to the story around sex.

Our brains, though, are not so easy to deceive. They go through a lot of considerations to decide whether or not we should get excited in a situation and if we should give procreation a try.

These considerations are made by our ancient procreation system. There is still a part of the primitive in us, who looks at sex in an entirely different way than his more civilised brother. In ancient times, sex was all about survival of a kind. A lot of children had to be born for this, and it had to happen fast and preferably with a suitable, healthy partner. It was all about survival in those days.

• Having a lot of children offers a bigger chance for at least some of them to grow up and survive
• People were vulnerable while having sex. Fast sex meant less risk and a bigger chance for survival.
• A partner had to be healthy; we are more attracted to healthy women because this increases the chances of survival of the potential children.

Development of premature ejaculation

As you can see, your brains don’t take into account what is or isn’t socially acceptable. These procreation considerations will always be made, whether we want it or not. We can’t stop this; we can only learn to handle it.

The brain sees a suitable partner. It notices you might be able to procreate. It sees she’s healthy and attractive: it wants to make intercourse short to increase your chance of survival. It only draws one conclusion. That conclusion is for you to get horny.

You try and have intercourse. The more you chance of having sex increases, the more stimuli will be sent to the brain, with as a logical conclusion that you lose your marbles in a state of sexual excitement.

For more information about this topic I suggest reading this article about the development of premature ejaculation.

How this sexual tension comes to a conclusion

In cases of premature ejaculation, the sexual tension rises so fast, that once moment to start intercourse arrives, you get an orgasm in no time at all.

Your ancient instinct has worked. Alas, your partner and maybe you as well will stay behind feeling unsatisfied.

So what can you do about this?

I’m not trying to make you feel ‘desperately hopeless’ here. All I’m trying to do is to show you how this process works. Understanding what goes wrong is often enough to solve half the problem. Now it’s important to get started with what I call ‘reprogramming’.

Exercises to reprogram the orgasm

You can learn to influence your brains’ conclusions and also your premature ejaculation, by doing the right exercises. You can learn not to arrive at the point where an orgasm is unavoidable too soon. My aim is to make you see how you can make sure that you can decide yourself when to get into a higher sexual tension phase.

This sounds quite complicated, but just a few simple exercises and taking some time can make this happen for you. The exercises are part of my digital method ‘in control of your orgasm’ which I have been working on over the past few years.

I would advise you to try this method out if you’d like to know more about this subject and if you want to get started with overcoming premature ejaculation.