How to Last Longer Before Ejaculation? — Do These Excercises And Become Unstoppable

To a man who prides himself on being a good lover, there is no set time for ejaculation. His simple answer to staying power is “I want to last as long as it takes to make my partner happy!” And there you have the solution to the “How to Last Longer Before Ejaculation” dilemma.

He doesn’t need to last 60 minutes if his woman doesn’t want him to. He only needs to last as long as she needs to (A) orgasm; (B) orgasm with vaginal penetration, and maybe (C) give her multiples if that’s what she wants.

No small feat, right? But believe it or not it’s not that hard to “stay hard” for a longer period of time. The first thing to do is to stop comparing yourself to porn stars and your stupid buddy Nick (who claims he can go three hours, yeah right!) and instead to focus on what your woman wants done. Speaking of technique, what you do to make her come.

Start with the basics and increase the duration of foreplay. Many men discover that they can easily give a woman or more orgasms just by giving her head. If you spend 20-30 minutes on foreplay, that’s an extra half hour to your advantage, getting her more hot and bothered for penetration later on.

Now the real money shot question to consider: How do I increase my staying power for vaginal penetration? This may be the most difficult part of sex for you, if the feeling of a warm vagina is too intense to keep up a steady rhythm. Don’t worry, you’re not alone.

How to Last Longer Before Ejaculation for Her Pleasure

According to Dr. Ed, 30 percent of men suffer from premature ejaculation at all ages, and according to a universal answer from doctors, anywhere from 30 seconds to four minutes can be “too soon”. Intercourse that lasts less than two minutes might be significantly below average and frustrating to a partner that just barely starts to feel the joy of penetration before a man has to stop.

According to Dr. Ed, behavioral techniques to stop PE have a success rate of 50 to 95 percent of all men who come forward with the problem. Now, usually a doctor or sex therapist has access to other methods besides teaching techniques; they can get a referral from a psychiatrist for medication that literally dulls the penis with light anesthesia. The man now has to deliberately stimulate the penis with greater intensity just to ejaculate. These medicinal options might include EMLA and Priligy.

However, most men tend to avoid seeing a doctor, or taking medication, simply because confessing a problem like P.E. to another man (or worse yet, a woman!) may feel embarrassing to some men.

It is very important to seek help and not ignore the problem since sexually frustrating your partner will only cause stress in the marriage. The good news though, is that you don’t necessarily have to try radical clinical treatment or even counseling. You may be able to cure P.E. by learning some techniques that allow you to delay orgasm.

Usually a doctor will try to determine if you suffer from lifelong PE or acquired PE. Let’s say that you’re trying a home remedy. Try to diagnose yourself and determine how long you’ve been ejaculating too soon, ever since your masturbation / sex life began.

Lifelong PE and Acquired PE

Lifelong premature ejaculation means that you have always come too soon, ever since you were a teenager (or younger) and first started masturbating or having sex. While some people who have lifelong PE do have serious psychological issues, sometimes it’s simply a learned habit and more common than people think.

For example, if you were a teenager and always masturbated in private, as quickly as possible to avoid being caught by your parents (and sadly, your hot next door neighbor never actually walked in on you in real life), then you’ve practically taught yourself that fast masturbation is the only way to enjoy pleasure.

Techniques for how to last longer before ejaculation would focus on re-learning how to experience pleasure without feeling the urge to finish quickly.

Acquired PE usually happens later in life and results for more tentative issues—like stress, relationship mistrust, or even medical problems like diabetes, high blood pressure or other health issues related to bad dieting and obesity.

Techniques for the Guy Who Needs a Little Help

Let’s say your PE is fairly recent, and not extreme. Maybe you can last about 3-4 minutes. You don’t immediately ejaculate upon penetration, but it does seem as if your partner wants more and you have to stop every 30-60 seconds because the rhythm of stroking is too intense.

Here are some PE techniques that can work and compiled by Men’s Health.

Let the Woman Take Control

If you find that you can’t seem to stay hard when you’re plowing along in missionary then do the simple thing first. Avoid missionary and any variation on missionary until you’re closer to coming. For example, Men’s Health says that the woman on top position is one of the best ways to keep penetration going but reduce the stimulation.

Now don’t think just because you’ve changed positions that she can ride the bull with all her might. Take things slow at first just until you get comfortable with the intensity of the ride, and avoid longer and faster thrusting. You might even try having the woman sway back and forth at first, rather than taking deep long and fast strokes like you see in porn. Go for slow, enjoyable and a comfortable rhythm rather than making the penetration high-intensity “bucking”.

It’s important that you become acclimated to the heat and feeling of an aroused, wet vagina before you worry about hard stroking. Take your time enjoy the sensation of being inside a woman and stop worrying about performance.

Practice Belly Breathing

One reason why men are always over-eager to ejaculate and “finish” is because they are literally out of breath. In order to have an orgasm and ejaculate, you must work your way up to a high level of excitement, and literally lose your breath in all the commotion.

Do you ever notice that when you have sex or masturbate, during orgasm and immediately after orgasm you probably huff and puff and try to recover—even if you’re sexercising? Yes, this is because you’re practicing shallow breathing and this does you NO favors when trying to increase your staying power.

Instead, follow Men’s Health’s suggestion of intentionally breathing slowly and deeply. This is called diaphragm breathing and it’s a technique frequently used in everything from Yoga to Tantra and even public speaking. Breathe through your nose and make the breath long and drawn out. You can tell if it’s working if your belly rises before your chest. Shallow breathing sees the chest rise first and you breathe shorter breaths through your mouth.

Breathe deeply and hold it for about five seconds and then release another slow and long breath. You can also practice visualizing a triangle and breath accordingly to each side – five seconds for a deep inhale, five seconds holding, and five seconds releasing slowly. Practice this rhythmic breathing throughout the day and during sex and you will not only reduce performance anxiety, but also relax your body and thus instantly increase your stamina. Your controlled breathing, while focusing on something else besides how turned on you are, is the secret to lasting longer.

Masturbate in Advance of Sex

If you know you’re going to make love to your love partner in an hour or so, and the biggest problem is controlling your passion, masturbate in advance so you can last longer. The initial sensation of entering a vagina will be less intense the second time.

More Advanced Techniques on How to Last Longer Before Ejaculation

Hey, don’t be ashamed if you’re lagging behind in the staying power department. Consider it a testament to just how hot your girlfriend / wife is!

If you can’t seem to last even a couple of minutes after penetration, and yet you don’t want to visit a doctor or try medicine, there are still other techniques to try.

The Start – Stop Technique

According to Dr. Thomas Walsh, interviewed at Men’s Health, the start – stop technique is perhaps the most effective treatment for PE. The urologist claims that a man reeducating himself on when to climax is important works because you can change the way your body and mind react to stimulation.

The start – stop technique involve a practice call “edging”, which is bringing one’s self to the brink of orgasm and then suddenly stopping all activity until the excitement level goes back down.

Edging may well be considered an “extreme” form of the start – stop technique, which traditionally is must slower in the beginning. Rather than masturbating or having sex and then reaching the “brink” of orgasm, you stop at a lower level of sexual excitement.

For example, if the moment right before orgasm and ejaculation (or the “edge”) is a 10 then you would STOP at the level 7 or 8. You would either cease sexual activity or you would do something very light, such as rubbing the testicles or stimulating your partner with your lips or fingers.

Then, when you’re back down to a level 6 you start again. Some men are able to stop for about 30-60 seconds, though others may need longer. The key is to give yourself control and take a timeout if you sense that you’re losing control over your body.

At first you might accidentally come too soon once or twice, but consider this a learning experience. Learn what your “point of no return” is and then always avoid reaching that stage physically and mentally.

Keep in mind this may be frustrating for a partner if you have to keep stopping every minute, which is why self-pleasure is recommended in addition to penetration. Take the time to learn your own body so that you can take the lead in starting and stopping without having to signal her each time.

For example, if you sense that your passion is too strong, you can change positions as a way of “stopping” and then starting a new position when you get your breathing and excitement under control. If you’re practicing alone, use lots of lubricant, along with a realistic sex toy, so that you don’t chafe.

The Squeeze Techniques

There is an “emergency button” in the form of the squeeze and press technique. The “squeeze” refers to the arousal reduction that occurs after squeezing the area on the penis that’s in between the shaft and the glans – right on the outside lines of the penis head.

Press this area before ejaculation (but not beyond the point of no return) and hold it fairly tight (but not so much that it hurts) for 30 seconds. Make sure you squeeze on the urethra or “tube” inside the penis and not just the outer head. This will stop ejaculation and you can repeat the step a few times for helping with the start and stop technique.

Another area to target is the area in between the testicles and the anus or “perineum.”  Firmly (but not too roughly) press on this area to reduce sexual arousal slightly and then start stimulation again.

Learning these squeeze and press techniques can help in an emergency if the start and stop technique doesn’t seem to be working. You DO want to learn the start and stop technique naturally and only use these squeezes if you absolutely need them.

Remember that the best way to learn how to last longer before ejaculation is to quit focusing on orgasm and ejaculation as a goal. For that matter, stop thinking of hard stroking and intense penetration as the entire point of sex.

You can learn how to make love, increase foreplay, and enjoy intimacy with your partner without the mindset of ejaculating the right way at the right time. Stop thinking of it as a goal and instead focus on the sensations you feel moment to moment. Expand on them and intensify each touch.

All these techniques, used in conjunction with deeper breathing, will help you stave off not just a premature orgasm but finishing too soon, and not satisfying your partner. And that’s really the key issue here because a good man should always be up to the task of satisfying a woman in need!

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