Giving oral sex, this is how you do it

Giving oral sex is a craft if you want do do it right. This is true for both giving oral sex on a man (blow job) and oral sex on a woman, (cunnilingus or eating pussy). A good performance always depends on applying the right technique. That’s why it is worth your while to learn the technique. Cunnilingus is one of the best ways to pleasure a woman and to help her reach a climax. Few women don’t appreciate good oral sex. Here are a few golden hints which will help you to become the most ‘cunning linguist’.

If you are not so keen on giving oral sex to her, you are not the only one according to the numbers. But today is an excellent day to really start enjoying sex with your partner.

1. Table of contents

   • 1 The right motivation
   • 2 Build up slowly
   • 3 Stimulate the clitoris when giving oral sex
   • 4 Use your hands during ging oral sex
   • 5 Use your tongue in the right way during cunnilingus
   • 6 Women on top
   • 7 Make eye contact
     • • 7.0.1 Sources
   • 8 Women about oral sex

   The right motivation

This is the most important hint you’ll get here. By ‘the right motivation’ I mean you have to be honest in your intentions. You should only be giving oral sex because you like doing it; because you enjoy it and find it satisfying to pleasure you partner and to give her an amazing orgasm. Never do it because you feel it’s a duty or a reciprocal service.

Not: because she gave you a blow job and you feel you have to return the favour, or you’r giving oral sex to her hoping she’ll do the same to you.

If you’re not fully motivated and you do it without enjoying it or for the wrong reasons, it will reflect in your technique and her experience of it (a woman is much harder to fool than us men). If you don’t enjoy it, you will never become good at oral sex.

2. Build up slowly

Cunnilingus is the oral stimulation of the female genitalia. This cold, nearly medical description of the whole process doesn’t describe what it’s really about: a form of love making. Only few women will appreciate it if you dive into the deep end straight away. Build up. Kiss her whole body, and slowly work your way down, all the way to her feet. Use your hands while you’re doing this and caress her sensitive spots. Once you feel her vagina getting moist, the right moment has come to slowly work your way up again. Don’t forget the inner side of her thighs when you’re going back up. When you’ve reached her crotch, don’t go straight to her clitoris, but first work on the outside of her labia with your tongue. Open her vagina with your fingers to free up the clitoris completely. Blow on it! Now you get her full attention and you can safely aim for the clitoris. (Be careful! For some women the clitoris is too sensitive to be ‘handled’ directly. Other women just can’t cum without direct stimulation of the clitoris. The only way to find out is to talk about it).

3. Stimulate the clitoris when giving oral sex

Now that you’ve reached the clitoris, the time has come to stimulate it. Don’t just use your tongue to do this, use your lips as well.  Don’t rush, take your time, be relaxed and don’t push too hard. Make circular movements with your tongue, go from left to right and up and down and suck it, the perfect cunnilingus technique doesn’t exist; it differs from woman to woman. Your task is to find out which technique she enjoys most. You can only find out by varying your technique and by observing her reactions. If you hear her moan and if she grasps your head between her thighs and pushes the back of your head with her hands, you’re probably doing it right. If she tries to push your head away or if you feel her slightly pulling back her body, then it’s probably all a bit too much. Don’t make the mistake to stop varying your technique once you think you found the right one. Keep varying and keep surprising her. Variety is the spice of life.

4. Use your hands during ging oral sex

Your hands are important tools in the love game. Use them during giving oral sex as well. You could use them to twist her nipples softly while you’re licking her pussy. Some women lose it completely when you do this, especially if you simultaneously use the same rhythm to make circles around her clit with your tongue. You can spoil her clitoris even more when you use your hands to spread the labia so it becomes more exposed. Many women also love it when you slide one or two fingers in her vagina while your tongue works on her clit. Slide your fingers in, palm facing up, and make a ‘come over here’ gesture; you stimulate her G-spot this way and this can bring her to a mind blowing climax. If you feel really adventurous you can insert one finger in her anus; not every woman likes this, though, but those who do can go completely wild this way. (Don’t re-insert that finger in her vagina, this could cause a nasty infection).

5. Use your tongue in the right way during cunnilingus

This hint may seem a bit strange at first. You can’t lick without your tongue, but you can also use your tongue to penetrate her. Stick out your tongue straight and bring it forward as much as you can and insert it. Move it up and down (as you would do with your penis) by sticking your tongue in and out. Or just keep it still and move your head up and down. An advanced pussy eater can also use his nose to stimulate the clitoris at the same time.

6. Women on top

Put one or two pillows under your neck and let her sit on your
face to give her total control. This can be mentally exciting for her, but it also gives her total control over the intensity of it all. As I said in every other post, every woman is different and enjoys different positions. Finding what she really likes is always a bit of a quest. So why not let her decide what she wants? By sitting on your face she can decide on the pace and the intensity of the cunnilingus. She can put some pressure on or withdraw slightly. It may be handy to hold one of her hands while doing this, so you can squeeze it slightly to let her know when it becomes too much or when you need to take a breath, because you might well turn blue if it all becomes too intense!

7. Make eye contact

Do you love it when your partner looks at you while she gives head? You’re not the only one. This is not only true for men. It is similar for many women. Make eye contact while licking her. Are you losing eye contact because she closes her eyes or throws her head back? A good marker to know you are doing it right!

These were some hints you should use when you are giving oral sex. Use these techniques and you will reap the rewards between the sheets. I just want to stress again what I have said before: every woman is different and every woman enjoys something else. It’s a bit of a challenge to discover what your partner likes. Enjoy finding out. Never forget that oral sex (just like any other form of sex) is an interactive game. Everything is permissible and nothing is obligatory. Listen to her and watch how she reacts to your touches and you’ll soon discover what she likes. There’s nothing wrong with just asking her what she enjoys. You don’t need to be embarrassed by that, it might actually save you some embarrassing moments during sex.

Women about oral sex