Female ejaculation. How does it work?

We’ve known for a while now that women can ejaculate, it’s a strange phenomenon, also called squirting. I call it strange because it is not as common as the male ejaculation. It takes practice and the woman’s freedom of spirit to let her-self go completely. It’s not only a wonderful experience for women; men get horny of all this wetness which comes with their partner’s total loss of control. It is worth your while to try it out and it can give your relationship a new boost, but first have a read how the female ejaculation process works.

Pornographic material on female ejaculation

Type ‘squirting and porn’ in your search bar and you’ll get countless results. This phenomenon is often linked to porn. I often hear men say “squirting? Yes, I know that ….from porn movies”

That’s OK, there’s nothing wrong with porn. But have you ever experienced it yourself with a woman? You don’t have to link female ejaculation to porn. It is possible, fun and it can renew your sex life.  You won’t learn how to do it by watching porn. Some porn movies make it look as if it doesn’t take any effort at all. Very often they imitate squirting with an injected fluid, so that won’t make it any easier for you.

The golden rule: every woman is physically capable of female ejaculation.

Fact: 85% of all women have never had it and don’t even know they can do it!

Just imagine what it would be like if you introduce her to her own female ejaculation.

The roll of the g-spot in squirting

A lot has been written about this and everybody has heard about it. To make a woman squirt you have to concentrate on the g-spot. What is it and where should you look for it?

The g-spot is a spongy tissue that is located at the top inside the vagina, at a depth of about 2 to 3 cm. The size of this tissue varies from woman to woman. It’s not always easy to find the g-spot. Sometimes you can feel a thickening, but in many woman that is only just touchable.

A lot of girls who have examined their own sexuality can find their own g-spot; ask them for help if you can’t find the way!

Stimulating the g-spot to achieve female ejaculation

Men can’t have intercourse without an erection. It is similar for women. They can have intercourse without being aroused, but they won’t feel any sexual stimuli or pleasure. The g-spot which is very important for the female ejaculation has to swell up. Just like a man’s penis.

Some preparation is needed to stimulate the g-spot. Don’t ever start sex by stimulating the g-spot immediately.

Get to know your fingers, they are easily controllable and they excite her. You can easily reach the g-spot with your fingers; they can feel exactly where you need to be. Play with her, do your utmost best to make her as horny as possible.

A good way to do this is to progress slowly and then take some steps back. Put one or two fingers next to the vagina, but wait a while before inserting them. Let her get used to it. Once you inserted your finger or fingers around two to three centimetres, you carefully search the top of the vagina for the spongy tissue. When you think you reached it, ask her if she can feel the spot and if it feels good.

At the start you swap between stimulating the g-spot and touching the whole vagina by making circular movements with your fingers. Every time you feel the g-spot, you add a bit of pressure. You can also use the “come over here” gesture. Watch how she reacts, you can see it on her face, but she may also tell you verbally if she likes it. If she enjoys the g-spot stimulation and if her excitement has clearly increased, you start making circular movements around the g-spot, alternated by pressing movements.

If you feel she really likes it, you can do the following variations

• In and out the vagina ( with extra pressure on the g-spot)
• Stimulate the clitoris at the same time.
• Caress her whole body with your other hand and hold her neck or hair when she fiercely cums.

Once the woman has squirted, the vagina may feel very dry. If she hasn’t cum yet, you should lubricate the vagina with vagina lubricant. If she suddenly feels she needs to pee, it may be a sign that a squirting orgasm is close (it isn’t urine!)

To cum and ejaculate simultaneously she should tense and relax her pelvic floor muscles rhythmically and pair that with breathing in and out. This will make the woman feel more relaxed and the fear of needing to pee will disappear. The chance that this would happen is very small.

Female ejaculation and bladder stimulation

You know a lot about the G-spot now, so it is time to teach you about bladder stimulation, which is important. A lot of women feel the need to urinate while you stimulate their g-spot. This feeling also occurs when they are aroused. This can simply be because of a full bladder. So ladies, if you can, do visit the toilet before making love. But even if you’ve done that, you can still feel the urge with an empty bladder when you are very aroused. If that’s so, it is almost certain that a female ejaculation is coming. And, just to reassure you, it is impossible to pee while aroused because the fork-end of your clitoris will compress the ureter.

The divine nectar, I can’t describe it any other way, is the liquid that is ejaculated by women. It is odourless and colourless. It tastes neutral or sweet and the more the woman is aroused, the sweeter the taste. And I think you’ll love hearing this, a woman who tastes sweet is like a love goddess, and you can only thank yourself for this. But where does this woman’s juice come from? It is produced in the female prostate gland during stimulation of the g-spot. The liquid is distilled from the bladder and collects in the spongy tissue. The expulsion of this liquid was probably meant to clean out the vagina after intense sex. Bacteria and sperm can collect and by squirting the vagina is clean again. Fresh and wet, can’t get any better, right?

The squirting orgasm of the cervix

The cervix orgasm is the most intense of all three. This can also cause a g-spot squirting orgasm. Because we already know what ejaculation is, I will now talk about the techniques.

At the back of the vagina you find the cervix which is connected to the ovaries. It is like a mouth with lips, the lips may feel a little hard to the touch, and the cervix is quite deep into the vagina. With great arousal the cervix can be reached. It is as if the cervix offers itself to you to receive sperm.

Stimulating the cervix and/ or its surroundings causes pleasure and can lead to a very intense orgasm.

If you noticed she is very aroused, you can find the cervix. Ask if she enjoys it or watch her body language.

It’s probably best to touch around the cervix with one finger; you’ll soon notice what she likes.

• You can make slow or fast circular movements around the cervix
• Give it little ticks and change the pace and the force you use every now and then.
• You can also take the cervix between your two fingers and move it back and forth.
• It can also be very pleasant to stimulate the cervix with a dildo. A dildo is smooth and it can reach further than your hand. Make sure it doesn’t feel old, because that can be a turnoff. Use a lubricant, it is always nicer and the good bit is that she can find her nice sots herself and let you make the circular movements. Ideal for g-spot beginners!

The best positions to achieve female ejaculation.

Luckily there are positions that make you reach the g-spot. You can use them to stimulate the g-spot and then let her come by fingering, but if a woman is familiar with her g-spot she may squirt straight away as well. She will always enjoy it tremendously.

1. The missionary position

This is the most traditional sex position, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a good one. It is also one of the best positions to stimulate the g-spot. You can enjoy it and keep eye contact; her facial expression will tell you a lot.

2. Woman on top

This is another well-known sex position, where the woman sits on top of the man. It is the perfect position to reach the g-spot and the woman controls everything. She decides how deep you penetrate her and how fast. And on top of that her hands are free so she can stimulate her clitoris.

3. Standing or kneeling man.

A very simple position, but oh so nice! If you have a chair or a bench close by you can give her an unforgettable orgasm. You could also stand up at the table and let her lie flat on her back. She lifts her but and rests her legs on your shoulders. This is a good position for deep penetration and to stimulate her g-spot.

4. Doggy-style sideways.

Women love dominant penetration. This is a variation of the doggy style, with the difference that she’s lying down. Women love this position because you can go deep inside her. It’s a great position to reach her g-spot, especially when you are lying more towards her head.

If you just began discovering the g-spot, these are the positions to start with. Once you master these, you will certainly be able to improvise some more yourself.