How to Choose the Best Vibrator for Your Woman

When we talk about the latest and best vibrator or dildos on the market, we often think it’s just single women who are into them.

I mean, a girl with a man shouldn’t need these, right?

But sometimes it’s good to check your ego at the door:

How sure are you that your partner is enjoying having sex with you as much as you do?

Could you make it better for her?

Would she appreciate that and pay you back “in kind”?

In this article, we’ll talk about the types of vibrators available, how they can drastically improve your sex life, and the best vibrator you can pick up for your woman. We’ll also go over a guide of what to look for when picking out a vibrator, and why (and how) you shouldn’t take it personally if your woman wants to use one in the bedroom.

Fact: Women Actually Prefer Having Vibrators During Sex

The vibrator, being a trusted, effective sex toy for women, is now a preferred “add-on” during sexy time. In fact, half of all women have used a vibrator.

While some men may take it personally in saying that their penis isn’t enough to satisfy their woman, you should understand that a woman using a vibrator goes beyond her satisfying her own personal desires:

She Loves to See You Extra Hard

Vibrators aren’t just for her, she can use it on you as well.

Women want you to get hard. They want to see and feel it.

It all starts with her rubbing it over your body as she slowly takes off your clothes. She then slowly but intimately uses the vibrator to stimulate your penis, and with the way she does it, you get harder and harder for her.

She hasn’t even used it herself, and you’re more excited to have sex with her.

She Wants You So Bad

While you’re thinking that she might actually be losing interest in you, she’s actually thinking and feeling otherwise: She simply wants you so bad that she doesn’t want you to feel down just because it takes a lot of time before she gets to orgasm.

Trust me – sometimes women get upset by this fact too.

With a vibrator around, you can now pleasure her in a way that she can’t resist.

As you use your tongue and play with her clitoris, you can put the vibrator inside her in the direction of the belly button aiming to hit her G-spot. By doing these actions at the same time, expect no less but an intense orgasm.

She Just Wants You to Take Control

Again, it’s still about you: She wants you and she needs you to take control during sex. She was to submit and be taken. With the use of the vibrator, women feel that you’re able to experiment and this idea excites them. They might start by getting your dick harder, but then you can assume control. Use a vibrator to penetrate your woman and make her want you even more.

Knowing what Vibrators are on the Market: How are They All Different?

Just like any other sex toy, choosing the best vibrator can be challenging. Because  men, women, and couples, all have different preferences, different types of vibrators have been continuously introduced to satisfy each and every desire.

There may be common options that are great for different groups but the fact remains – there are A LOT of types out there.

We’ll go over what to look for when buying, but vibrators mostly vary in the following three aspects:

1. Target body part

We all have our own fetish and this is one of the things that vibrators consider. Keep in mind that while there are the long and slender ones fit for penetration, and more specifically for insertion, there are those that come like a ring or are egg-shaped as well. These are not made to work well inside the body and ideally are made to hold and excite parts like the clitoris and the penis alone.

2. Material

Vibrators may look the same but actually may be quite different in terms of the material they’re made out of. Some are made of a harder plastic with a mix of metal to cater to users who prefer more intense vibrations. On the other hand, there are those that are made from softer, lighter materials which result in milder vibrations.

Depending on the material type, it might affect how easy the vibrator is to clean after use.

Some materials are also not compatible with certain types of lube, so be sure to check all of this.

3. Battery life

Going into a bit more detail now, battery life varies in vibrators mainly because some simply require batteries, others are rechargeable, while there are those that need to be plugged in for use.

Those that come with batteries, of course, are more convenient to use and could actually result in a more adventurous experience (no cords = no limits). However, this type usually costs the most.

Rechargeable ones could result in the same intensity as that of the battery-type but could be annoying at some point as they require a significant amount of time to be fully-charged…and you need to make sure that’s all done before “the moment” hits. I.e., it’d suck if you forgot to charge it.

Finally, while for plug-in vibrators you won’t have to worry about buying batteries, they can limit you from exploring because of the cord length.

It’s all up to your own personal preference. Also when it comes to buying the vibrator, be sure to double check if you or your partner have any allergies to the material used with the vibrator.

Deciding: What to Look for in a Vibrator?

Vibrators can be quite expensive, so you want to come in to the store (offline or online) knowing what you’re looking for:

Be Sure of the Size and the Manufacturer

We know that size does matter: If you happen to be one of those who prefers shopping online, then you’ll need to be extra careful when buying.

Keep in mind that these vibrators come in different shapes and sizes, so it’s really a must to carefully check the specifications and features you’ll see.

Say you decide to go with the traditional, or the usual hard-shelled plastic ones ranging from four to eight inches long, then you’ll need to be extra sure of two things – diameter and circumference. These two dimensions vary and will be helpful in determining the size that you or your partner are longing for.

Always double check with your partner before ordering as it could still be too short to pleasure her, or too long for her to handle.

In what way can you check that that size is right for her? You might ask her if she’s used one before, or if she’s ever been with a partner who’s either been too big or too small. You could also test with CLEAN fingers or long vegetables: Simply use your finger or a vegetable like a carrot or cucumber to test the depth of your partner’s vagina. Based on how she reacts and what she tells you, you can gauge the most desirable size and base your buy off that.

Communication is key: You’re doing this to increase pleasure for both of you, so don’t be shy to ask questions.

At the end of the day, always go with a trusted brand or manufacturer that’s been around for a while, and has good safety accreditations.

Know Her Type and What Pleasures Her – The Three Types of Vibrators

There are three main types of vibrators:

If you want something that can pleasure both you and your partner, then the safest bet would probably be the G-Spot Vibrator. With this, both anal and vaginal play are achievable. Ideally, to stay safe and away from any bacteria, it’s best to cover it up with a condom to make cleaning easier after every use.

Do you want it to be really intense for her? Then, there’s no better way than to stimulate her clitoris, which is considered to be the most sensitive spot for vibrations comparable to that of the head of the penis. You can do this by choosing to buy Clitoral Vibrators.

If you want to pleasure both her clitoris and vagina walls, then Rabbit Vibrators will be the best buy yet. Their shafts are for insertion while the “bunny ears” pleasure the clitoris. Women report the double sensations to be incredible and orgasm very quickly.

See if the Controls Are Convenient and User-Friendly

Now cheaper vibrators often come with a simple on-and-off control. Expect that with this type, you cannot explore much.

On the other hand if you’re willing to spend more, then it would always be more exciting to go with a vibrator that allows for multiple speed and function controls. It opens up options and will definitely make things more exciting for the both of you.

Another question to consider: Do you prefer hand-controlled or remote control vibrators? Hand-controlled ones tend to be more discreet and allow you to be in full control, allowing you to navigate it the way you desire. On the other hand, remote control ones are convenient to use (even in public places) but tend to produce more sound, so you’ll have to check how loud it could get prior buying it.

A Sample of the Best Vibrators on the Market

To make it easier for you, I’ve compiled a list of some of the best vibrators on the market. You might want to consider these, as they are some of the most commonly purchased vibrators, and also the most safe:

Lovelife Cuddle G-Spot Vibe

If you’re on a tight budget, this $69 G-Spot Vibrator available on OhMiBod will not disappoint any girl. It’s made of safe silicone materials and is Phthalate free.

Finding her G-Spot can get challenging but this will end that search, and achieve her every desire through powerful but discreet vibrations. This is a good one to start with.

Iroha Sakura

If you have an extra $30 to spare, then you’d love the overall quality of the latex-free Iroha Sakura. Known for its split tip, and flexible/smooth texture, you’re surely going to stimulate her most sensitive spots. Check out this item on Amazon.

We-Vibe Tango

Are you hoping to go places with the vibrator? The We-Vibe Tango would be the best option then. It is rechargeable, handy (pocket-sized), and could make travel with your partner extra intense. It’s also 100% waterproof so you can take it in the shower, bath, or ocean ;). Check out their website to find a store near you that stocks it.

Magic Wand Rechargeable

Though known for being quite pricey, even double the price as the original version, the Magic Wand Rechargeable gives you tons of variety through its 4 power intensities and 4 vibration patterns. If you’re looking for the best clitoral vibrator to give her the most intense orgasm, this is the winner. You can pick one up at HitachiMagic.

If I were to choose, I would definitely go with the Magic Wand Rechargeable. It may be more expensive but there is more to expect in all aspects – functions, quality, and effect. All the women I’ve talked to also prefer it.

What to Keep in Mind as a Man when it Comes to Vibrators

Now that you have for the best vibrator for your woman, then there is nothing less to expect but great, satisfying sex for the both of you.

It might take a bit of time to get over the initial slight ego hit, but don’t let your mind run and think that she’ll never be satisfied with you alone. Simply think of this as a way to keep things intense between you two.

I’m sure that you’d rather use things like this with you than her doing it alone, or the worst case, to be blunt, with someone who is more open-minded than you and willing to do it for her.

Keep this in mind – your lady would not only feel equally satisfied as you do as you give her an extra tool to help her cum, but you’re actually making her appreciate you even more: You’re showing that you’re open-minded, care about her pleasure as much as yours, and can put a bit of your ego aside. This shows confidence and care, and that combo is incredibly sexy to women.

With this as well, you’ll never worry about being the selfish one, and by being open-minded about using a vibrator in bed, she wouldn’t even consider other means of being sexually satisfied…other than you.

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