The best tips for oral sex

If there’s anything that will please your partner during sex, it is definitely oral sex. This is true for men, but maybe even more so for women!

Are you not the best in bed, is your penis too small or do you struggle with premature ejaculation? None of this will matter if you know how to provide your partner with the ultimate pleasure using your mouth!

That’s why I wrote this article. I will share some excellent tips with you about how to go down on a woman in the best possible way. Take your time to study this advice. Learn it by heart and practice it the next time you have sex. You’ll see what I mean. There is no better, more effective and faster way to please a woman and to make her orgasm than by giving her oral sex or cunnilingus.

What is cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is the act of sexually pleasuring a woman using your mouth. You do this by caressing and kissing the most sensitive areas of the vulva, like the clitoris and the labia with your tongue and lips.

There are a lot of techniques to make this form of sexual pleasuring varied and interesting. Most men use cunnilingus as foreplay, which is not a bad idea at all.

How do you start oral sex?

 

Always remember that a woman needs a bit more time to get aroused than you during sex. I discuss this in the article about foreplay.

It’s no fun for her if you immediately rip her clothes off and start using all kinds of techniques. Licking, searching and kissing her most intimate spots can be very enjoyable for her, but only if you chose the right moment.

Start slowly. Caress her body first. Discover each other’s naked body and kiss her before you take the next step.

You can start kissing her lower and lower on her body. If you spend enough time on her neck, breasts, belly and even her legs, you’ll find her slowly giving herself over.

You will notice by her facial expression and her reaction that she has come to complete arousal. This is the moment to touch her vagina with your mouth.

Cunnilingus and oral satisfaction, how do I do that?

It is wise to start slowly and to slowly build up the pace to find out where your partner’s limits are, because the sensitivity of the vagina and the clitoris is different for every woman.

The first thing you could do is kiss her right next to the vagina. Kiss right above it and next to it; you can also use your fingers to feel her labia. This way you build up tension until all she has left in her mind is your mouth on her genitals.

It’s best to use your tongue for the first touch. Its soft, moist and warm touch is the most enjoyable for her to feel. It’s also easy to control so you can stimulate more focussed. Start by discovering her outer labia bit by bit. Kiss and lick them attentively. The next step is the clitoris.

One very good tip I can give you here is to put your tongue flat on her clitoris. It makes it easier to push on it and you’ll reach a bigger surface, and it will be even more fun for her because the skin of this area is full of nerve endings. Your tongue won’t be as tired and won’t cramp up.

Orgasm by cunnilingus?

Not every woman cums as easily, but if there is one way to achieve orgasm, then it is definitely oral pleasuring combined with penetration.

Therefore I advise you to start using your fingers in the game after a good while of stimulation with your tongue. Slowly start entering her vagina with your finger while kissing her clitoris. The muscled wall you pass to enter the vagina is the most sensitive, so it isn’t necessary to push your finger very deep.

Soft, swaying movements are often enough to get intense reactions from her. Watch how she reacts! You may be dealing with a lady who is not too fond of this, or who is a little shy. It may be she doesn’t want to carry on with it. Always respect that!

If you notice her enjoying it you can start slowly increasing the rhythm of the swaying movement of your finger, and increase the pressure of your tongue and mouth on her clitoris. Many women will cum in a very short time that way. Make sure to remember to keep your tongue flat and move it a lot. It is the friction that gives her the good stimulating feeling.

Fingering is only done as a support. Some women prefer a more active masturbation during cunnilingus. You’ll notice this from her reactions.

More tips for effective oral sex

Some women love it when you penetrate the vagina with your tongue. Try it; it might give you a positive surprise!

Another good trick is to interrupt the physical contact with her vagina. Start rubbing right next to the vagina without touching it. You may have heard of this kind of tips before? I call it “1 step ahead, 3 steps back”. This means that you work very slowly on intimacy and you progress bit by bit.

This increases the tension many times and once she lets herself go and you increase the tension, the result will be strong and intense.

Don’t be surprised if you experience a woman’s squirt orgasm this way.

Things to be aware of while giving head

A man secretes pre-cum when aroused, and so does a woman, sometimes rather a lot of it. This substance works as a lubricant for the woman. It makes sex pleasurable for her, without it her vagina could become quite painful from physical contact. You need to know that during oral sex you will be exchanging bodily fluids. I can assure you that there is NOTHING DIRTY about this. It is a very normal, neutral fluid. It has no taste, although this can vary for every woman. Of course good hygiene is always important.

You have to assume with confidence that your partner is clean!

Cunnilingus can be somewhat stuffy for a man. The space between her legs can compress your face, make sure you keep your airway free; otherwise this stuffiness can cause you to feel an aversion for cunnilingus, while this would be unfounded.

Note that for many people to perform oral sex they need to cross a line. It needs some courage to do it for the first time, especially if you’re inexperienced. It is the same for your partner. If you’d like to get oral sex, you should not refuse to give it yourself!

Strategic cunnilingus

I have dedicated part of this website to the problem of premature ejaculation. If you find it difficult to postpone your orgasm but you still want to pleasure your partner, cunnilingus and oral sex would be the perfect way to do so and to let her cum before you do.

It’s perfectly OK to interrupt the intercourse and replace it by oral sex to give her continuous enjoyment and to insert a little break for yourself. Men suffering from erectile dysfunction can still give their partner a fantastic time in bed.

Oral sex is not the only weapon for you of course, but it is VERY important, especially because it’s the best way to make most women cum.

Other cunnilingus tips

To conclude: Women differ from men. Therefore you should take your time for everything you do during sex! Cunnilingus needs to be built up too. Take step by step, kiss closer and closer to the vagina, but make her gasp for it for a while before you start licking.

Enjoy what you do! It has to be fun for you to offer her this pleasure. It should never be the case that you give oral sex, only because you expect to get it back.

Expectations are not conducive!

Practice!

Make these techniques become a second nature and make sure you start considering giving oral sex as a standard part of good sex!

Try and imagine what your partner feels and feel proud of yourself for giving her such intense pleasure. You’ll see that there will always be a reward! Sometimes it is what she’s planning to do to you, but sometimes it’s just the expression on her face when she cums! Whatever it is, it will be worth your while!